Drew Barrymore opens up about intimacy after a woman accuses her of being a sexist

Drew Barrymore shared how motherhood and divorce affected her view of sex and relationships. (Photo: Reuters/Andrew Kelly)

Drew Barrymore is setting things straight after a recent comment on her eponymous talk show gave some viewers the impression that she “hates sex.”

Last month, Barrymore, 47, addressed actor Andrew Garfield’s claim that he gave up sex for six months before playing a Jesuit priest in the 2016 film. Silence. In response, the actress—a single mom who’s been vocal about the show’s dating dilemmas—jokingly joked, “What’s wrong with six months not seeming too long? I was like, ‘Yeah?'” “

But some have taken this unfamiliar note about celibacy the wrong way, as Barrymore discovered when a woman recently approached her after finishing a workout. “You look exactly like Drew Barrymore except you look like you’re mentally healthy and besides…she hates sex!” The woman told her.

After finally tying the dots between that woman’s comment and what she said on her show last month, Barrymore felt moved to explain how her vision of intimacy has evolved over the years, from her wild upbringing as a child star to her current state as a single. Mum who shares two daughters with third husband Will Kopelman.

“At around 48, I have very different feelings about intimacy than I had when I was growing up.” Which. T. extra floor The star shared a new blog post called “Rebels Who Love” on Sunday. “I didn’t have role models and have dealt with people in ways grown up from my childhood! I was looking for companionship! Validation! Excitement! Fun! Fun! Fun! Adventures!! Now, because I can’t get it! In a time machine and my history change.” .. [I] Choose to look at it through a positive lens, which is what I lived through! I have lived a very rich full life.

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“However, after two children and a separation from their father made me wary, I had the pleasure of shifting my focus when it came to love for myself and my daughter. I know this does not include the man nor for a while,” continued Barrymore, who divorced Kopelman in 2016, adding insight From her therapist helped her distinguish between sex and love. “I realized by working in therapy (with Barry), that he said something and I had to write it down. He said, ‘Sex is not love!'” It is an expression of love. “I have searched all my life for words like these to help me understand the difference and now, thanks to him, I do so.”

The He’s never been kissed The actress went on to explain how being a mother to 10-year-old Olive and 8-year-old Frankie has changed the way she approaches relationships, both with herself and with others. Barrymore shared that “since I entered life as a single mother, I haven’t been able to form an intimate relationship.”

“It’s been an honor and pleasure to actually work on myself and learn what parenting is, and again something I wasn’t completely clear about growing up and had many learning curves thrown my way,” she continued. I was intimidated. I triumphed. I was asked to learn in every possible way. The truth is that it is different for every family and every individual, but I had to try to find our own way. I am also raising two daughters, so how do we raise girls to be fit and empowered To love ourselves and to realize that we live in an age where the images and messages they will see also conflict with what you have come to believe in intimacy is something that makes you feel good about yourself! As much as it makes you feel great because there’s a lesson out there.”

Barrymore says her divorce from Will Kopelman (pictured in 2011)

Barrymore says her divorce from Will Kopelman (pictured in 2011) “shaken me to the core.” (Photo: Reuters/Kina Betancourt)

While Barrymore has been open about her dating life, she is not looking for anything serious at the moment.

“I’m in a completely different place in my life and maybe in the very near future I’ll get into a relationship…but it simply wasn’t my priority,” she wrote. “So I’m not someone who needs sex and I have to get out there and interact with people on that level. I’m someone who is deeply committed to nurturing how little girls, my girls, and I, as a woman, are supposed to be a job in this world! A relationship with a guy has never been my top priority. For me for a very long time.

She noted that “some people can exit a marriage or relationship and in the near future find themselves in another relationship.” “There’s nothing wrong with that! Not one thing. I don’t judge! I’m celebrating their trip! Because some people really work. It didn’t work out for me. I needed to stay so celibate and in honor and in some sort of state of mourning for the loss of the nuclear family that I swore I would for my daughters and that I find grace and acceptance and what the new normal for a blended family would be like. It took time. I’m proud of myself for taking that time. That’s what I needed to do, as my own individual and not just anyone else, and I was so honorable and I respect myself for that, because I respect Anyone else’s choices. I simply laughed about the fact that it’s not my personal priority to be with a partner, but that doesn’t mean it won’t one day. I need time. And my view of sex has really changed.”

Barrymore, who has been married three times, has also reflected on her love life over the years.

“I wish when I was younger I’d have the chastity and thinking I do about intimacy now as a 48-year-old,” she admitted. “I wish my mum or dad or my friends would have taught me that there is an age-appropriate job and there is a way to become a fine young woman! There are fun things but also limits that can lead to self-esteem. When you are selective and look at sex as an expression of love and not love itself… well… I’m very happy to be here now in my life.But don’t forget that I’m a rebellious monkey brat and weird and comedian and idiot and doesn’t judge others and doesn’t really want anyone to be too involved in my choices when it comes to this weak subject but because I’ve been an open book my whole life but we’re here be!”

Barrymore ends her article by clarifying her position on the topic of sex.

“So for the record, I don’t hate sex!” I wrote. “I’ve finally come to the epiphany that love and sex are simply not the same thing. I’ve searched my whole life…to be a quiet woman and not a flowery party girl. Also, when you grow up and are in child marriage and think you’re only going to be with that person for the rest of your life and then Doesn’t that happen? It shook me to the core, to say it softly. But I’m lucky enough to have a cup run in the love department: I have my two daughters, and for the first time in my life, I’m actually including self-love too.”

She concluded, “I wish everyone could find out what makes them feel good about themselves and look for it! If and when they find what makes them feel bad about themselves, they take notice, avoid it, and even refrain from inviting feelings that do not lead to self-esteem. And then of course, Find out what makes them feel good about themselves and pursue it! And be protective and passionate in the fact that we all deserve love! We should all give love! But love and sex are not the same thing.”

The talk show host’s reflections on relationships and motherhood echo the comments she made during her appearance CBS this morning in january.

“I never realized and said out loud that I don’t know how to date kids,” she said. “The father of my children is happily married to the most wonderful woman in the world, Ally [Michler]. My children have this extraordinary stepmother. Our operations were different and their side of the street is very practical, complete and happening. And I think I was on the sidelines–in a beautiful, honorable purgatory.

“I’ve been saying ‘That’s me,’ ‘It’s my choice,’ ‘I’m not ready,’ ‘I want to wait,'” she continued. “I don’t think I said out loud that it was really because I had these two daughters.”

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